Sometimes it's what people don't say that gives them away. The opinion they refuse to give answers exactly what they really think. That they have something to hide , a feeling or an opinion they can't share because they know just how you feel about it and want to avoid conflict.It may well be they are trying to protect you from their feelings but it always backfires in the most horrible way. We all hope the people we love will share our opinions and our hopes for the future. If they don't and we really do care for that person , it hurts when they don't. Even if they then say " oh but I do agree" if their words , actions and attitude don't appear to , there is little reason to believe.
Believing in others is something I really struggle with. Trusting others to tell the truth and share their true feelings. Years of watching people tell pointless lies with a false sense of chivalry .. Believing they lie to protect others, to prevent causing hurt. When in fact it's just to protect themselves from the truth and others knowing that truth. Lies are not protective they are destructive and sometimes not actively lying but simply not sharing the whole truth is just as destructive. Even if the whole truth will cause heartache for those you claim to love.
Some people tell lies deliberately , knowing they are destructive and that most people can be easily led by a few tall stories. Sadly we are a nation that doesn't believe one is innocent until proven guilty. People read snippets in trashy newspapers and hear rumours via distant grape vines, and they form opinions and thoughts and are ready to punish with harsh sentences based on these sources. Never questioning what the truth might be.
I was born into a family where we were taught to question everything , to ask questions and find truthful answers, even when the truth hurts. We can only make decisions based on truth and knowledge is power. We were taught to speak up for ourselves share our opinions and stand by them. Stand openly strong and willing to fight for what and who we love or believe in. As I've grown older I'm sad to discover so many people taught to lie and hide things simply to make things go their way. There is no chivalry in that. No pride and no respect for yourself or others.
My family pretty much always says what they think. Often there is conflict between us, but never hate and never true falling out. They will always step up to the plate to stand up for their own. With anyone.
Not standing up , not telling the truth not speaking out says so much more than most may think.
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